How To Make Pakistan Our ‘Friend’
From time to time, we hear overtures from Pakistan, echoed by sentimental idealists within India, about friendship between Pakistan and India. The narrative runs along these lines:
- We are fundamentally the same people – same culture, same language, same food. Only selfish politics keeps us apart.
- Both nations will benefit enormously from trade and especially from savings in defence expenditure.
 
Let us examine these ‘reasons’.
 
Yes, Punjabis on both sides were pretty much the same people at one time, but that is not true of the rest of India and the rest of Pakistan. A Tamilian has very little in common with a Baloch, nor would an Assamese find a ‘brother’ in a Pashtun. 
 
However, this is not a fundamental issue. People of different cultures and lifestyles can be good friends. I have seen this happen countless times during my 20 years in the Middle East.
The critical issue is:  how do the people think?
 
A very sombre picture emerges, if you delve deeper.
 
Since the time of Zia-ul-Haq (late-1970s), there has been a deep change in Pakistan society. The education system has been radically changed to focus heavily on religion and ideology. On their first day at college, students are told that what they will be taught is false, and needed only to pass the exams—the truth is in the Holy Book.
 
As a part of their curriculum, this is what children are taught from a very early age:
- India is our dushman (enemy).  
- Indians are Hindus, kafirs (non-believers) and despicable people.
- The sole aim of India is to destroy Pakistan.
- The army is your only protection against such attacks and our valiant army has defeated India in four wars.
 
The great majority of Pakistan’s population, i.e., those born after 1975, have had these ‘truths’ drilled into their heads since childhood. 
 
If, suddenly, someone says that India is a friendly country, how much credibility would he receive?
 
General Bajwa, who ruled Pakistan for six years as the army chief, deposed an elected PM and 'selected' another, did talk about a hundred years of peace with India, but nobody paid any attention, even though he was the most powerful man in the country.
 
Things are changing, you may say—people will find the truth from social media. But that doesn’t happen in Pakistan. Social media is tightly controlled.  If a writer or journalist expresses a contrary opinion, (s)he is threatened or utha liya jata hai. Moreover, there is an overwhelming flood of 'correct' opinions on social media. Hence, social media content will not change the mindset in Pakistan.
 
The truth is:
- There is no indication that the country’s ruling elite is ready to give up power or change its way of thinking. Any attempt at revolution will be brutally curbed.  
- Even if the ruling elite changes its stance vis-à-vis India, the people are unlikely to accept it.
 
As regards trade, the positions of the two countries are vastly different.  Pakistan has hardly anything to offer India and, what little it has may not stand in competition against Indian producers. On the other hand, India can flood Pakistan with goods of every description, from Hajmola to trains. If a free hand is given, Indian industry will swamp the Pakistani markets.
 
Pakistan will not allow this to happen and, hence, trade will, at best, remain too tiny to matter, at least to India.
 
On the defence front, even if friendship develops, India’s defence expenditure will not reduce significantly because:
- India’s real enemy is China and defence preparedness against this powerful adversary cannot be allowed to slacken.
- At the same time, our military presence on the western front cannot be diluted, because we cannot afford to allow rogue elements to pour across the border and create havoc.
 
So, what will India get by becoming a friend of Pakistan? Nothing really.
 
On the other hand, any act of friendship, such as relaxing visa controls, so as to expand the much-vaunted 'people-to-people' contact, may well open the door for umpteen jehadis to enter our country.
 
Therefore, friendship is not feasible for Pakistan, and not worthwhile for India. Hence, it is absurd to talk of 'aman-ki-asha' and similar idealistic notions.
 
But, when the army chief of Pakistan, and recently the deputy PM, talk of trade, dialogue and such-like, there is an underlying message of which we must take heed.
 
The fact is – slowly but surely, Pakistan is dying the 'death of a thousand cuts'.  There is no money, friendly countries have turned their backs, assets have been sold, and inflation is rampant. New enemies (TTP—Tehreek-e-Taliban-e-Pakistan, BLA—Balochistan Liberation Army, etc) are striking within Pakistan every day, and the army doesn’t know how to control it. The situation is dire.
 
To my mind, Pakistan is hoping against hope that India might provide a ‘bail-out’, like the US$4bn (billion) that Sri Lanka was given. If this does happen, Pakistan may be able to carry on a few years more.
 
How should India react?
 
There is a strong case for giving Pakistan a few billion dollars, provided it gets us some military advantages, plus the prime names on our 'Wanted' list – the likes of Hafiz Saeed and Dawood Ibrahim. After all, the Pakistanis sold Osama bin Laden to the Yanks, didn’t they?
 
Not helping Pakistan at this juncture may lead to a meltdown in the country. The ensuing chaos, with over a hundred nuclear bombs awaiting theft, is far more dangerous for India than a starving Pakistan kept alive with a little bit of money.
 
The bottom line – it is foolish to expect peace with Pakistan on the basis of ‘brotherhood and friendship’.  On a purely commercial basis, however, we may be able to buy peace, get some things that we want, and prevent chaos on our western border. 
 
This version of aman, albeit purchased, could be worth having.
 
(Deserting engineering after a year in a factory, Amitabha Banerjee did an MBA in the US and returned to India. Choosing work-to-live over live-to-work, he joined banking and worked for various banks in India and the Middle East. Post-retirement, he returned to his hometown Kolkata and is now spending his golden years travelling the world, playing bridge, befriending Netflix & Prime Video and writing in his wife’s travel blog.)
Comments
govindwattal
2 months ago
A Tamilian has very little in common with a Baloch,>>>>>>>

Brahui, tribal confederacy of Balochist?n, in western Pakistan. Its members are mostly nomadic goat herdsmen, distributed from the Bol?n Pass through the Br?hui Hills to Cape Muar? on the Arabian Sea. The Brahui language is a far northwestern member of the Dravidian family of languages, all of whose other members are spoken in peninsular India; it has borrowed heavily from Sindhi but remains in unexplained isolation among the surrounding Indo-Iranian dialects, to which it bears no genetic relationship. The Brahui are estimated to number about 1,560,000.

Physically the Brahui resemble their Baloch and Pashtun neighbours, for the confederacy has been highly absorptive. They are Muslim by creed and Sunnite by sect, though the Muslim rites overlie essentially Indian social customs. Women are not strictly secluded.
Meenal Mamdani
Replied to govindwattal comment 2 months ago
Thank you for this fascinating information. Amazing how this might have happened, migration perhaps.
govindwattal
Replied to Meenal Mamdani comment 2 months ago
Truth can be stranger than fiction !!
deepakbhatti
3 months ago
how can you miss talking about a scenario where Pakistan is totally infiltrated by the Chinese?!
'tum agar humko na chaho to koi baat nahi; tum kisi aur ko chahogi to mushkil hogi....'
parimalshah1
3 months ago
The title of the story itself is absurd.
ankitkaushik.me
3 months ago
Good analysis. interesting and correct thoughts on the topic.
parikzit
3 months ago
optimistic analysis, the two bargaining chips pak has, which it will use to fullest before the doomsday mentioned:

strategic location: one of the best gateway to West Asia , for China and Russia

"protecting nukes" : if chips actually go down , it has Turkey or in worst case Iran " to protect" the stockpile in return of some deterrence benefits to them

in any case Turkey would be an easier sell internally than India . And most importantly, you are counting China out too prematurely.It has significant investments and interests to let the country go to jihadis
snehcs1
3 months ago
out rageous idea -"a hundred nuclear bombs awaiting theft, is far more dangerous for India than a starving Pakistan kept alive with a little bit of money." (A )little bit money is too much and will be utilise against India , (b) theft of bomb is dangerous for whole world including China . Then , why India put whole bill of stopping chaos, ( C) there is enough bomb in market , why fear from some extra, (d) China is encouraging mass murder weapen in Pak, North Korea , Iran etc, ( e) India resources are limited , so it should be spent for India benifits.
jaydesai1
Replied to snehcs1 comment 3 months ago
Good analysis
Meenal Mamdani
3 months ago
A bleak assessment, too pessimistic and assumes the people of Pakistan will remain brain-washed forever by religious leaders. Moreover, on the Indian side, we have our own poison-spreaders though they have been cut down to size by the Indian polity which may be poor and uneducated but is wise and mature.
The major stumbling block is the Pakistani military which has its tentacles in all parts of the economy. Hard to root out the military once they establish control but has happened as in Chile, Argentina, Tunisia, and other countries.
Whether or not the two countries establish friendly relations in the years to come, it is important to encourage and nurture ties between the peoples of both nations so that when the leaders decide to bury the hatchet, their efforts will be accepted and amplified by the people.
Pragna Mankodi
Replied to Meenal Mamdani comment 3 months ago
Till the time the Pak military is in command and only proxy govt exists, it is not possible to talk of friendship. Although some people or parties from this side of the border may talk to accomplish their political agenda, which they have done in the past 60 years when in power.
Pragna Mankodi
3 months ago
A bold article striking at the root of the eco-system within our country advocating friendship with Pakistan. Even their talk of opening trade is motivated out of purely selfish intentions. Terrorism and talk of friendship cannot go hand-in-hand. And yes, your suggestion of resuming trade for a quid-pro-quo in exchange for Hafiz and Dawood can be considered by the powers that be. But, Pak\'s existence as a union of provinces with different socio-cultural backgrounds is under severe threat. If their economic conditions do not improve, we can expect an implosion where that country will be torn into pieces. Once that happens, even terrorism will not survive there. The ray of hope for that country is their judiciary. Cricketer cum Ex-PM and his wife have been given bail and given some relief by the apex court in the cases slapped with political motivations. But for a few people across the Indian side of the border, democracy is thriving in Pakistan and Aman Ki Asha should be pursued so that they can enjoy their Biryani.
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